WRITING ACTIVITY: LETTER OF COMPLAINT

Dear Mr. Higa,

I'm writing this letter because I want to express my complains about your video “Guys vs. Girls: Relationships” and what could you do to improve both women and men in your video (I'm going to focus on women thou, but it can be applied to men as well). For this purpose, first, I'm going to explain my complains and afterwards what would I change and why.

As a starting point I have to admit that, since you are a comical producer, this video fulfil its purpose, it is fun. But that is not enough to qualify your product as a good representation of women (and men) or to say that since it's a comical video it's not made to represent reality. Both ideas are not enough because every person can see those videos, as a consequence of that you can make people, who are not aware of the real way that women (and men) act and behave in those real situations, believe that that is the way women (and men) behave.

For the reasons shown above I want to express my dissatisfaction with your video. It is not possible that a famous media creator in YouTube with 14,614,723 subscribers (by the 18 of June, 2015) show stereotypes with out a problem. We have to remember that YouTube is a place where anyone with an internet connection can access your videos, because of that we, as users or content creators, have to be aware and conscious of not showing and presenting stereotypes and wrong ideas.

I believe that we, being part of a globalize society, need and have to improve the generalize vision of society in any aspects (for example, cultural, religious, gender, among other), we are not having relationships between persons of our own country, cultural and religious background. We are having relationships with all the world, theglobalization make us the need to forget stereotypes, it make us the need of knowing the truth, the real way things are.

With that said I want to express my solution to the problem. The solution that I think is the correct one is to show the stereotype version and the real version, the title would be something like “Guys vs. Girls: Relationships Believe vs. Reality”. I believe that is the correct way to present this theme because the problem in your video was to only show the stereotype idea of how women and men act in a relationship, with showing the real way of acting we eliminate the problem and make awareness and consciousness of the stereotype and wrong believes, and if we are aware and conscious of the problem we can change it to be accurate as possible.

Finally, I would like to thank you for leaving a piece of your time into reading this letter and I would like to ask you if you can change the way you are presenting stereotype, I think is a very important task all of us have to do. Nevertheless, I hope you continue working in your videos since they are very funny.

Yours sincerely,

Sebastián Bustos

Written Task - Exam

Women and Men. Two Worlds. Two Ways of Speaking

I'm sure in your daily life you can appreciate the differences between men and women in all aspects physical, psychological, ways of speaking, etc... . I'll like to focus on the speaking (and writing) aspect, for that I'll need to focus on the psychological aspect on (relating it with stereotypes) to explain some ideas, as you'll see later.

As a starting point I'll tell you the common topics men and women tend to talk and have a good lexis in. For one part, men focus on sports, work, sex, politics, among others. For the other, women focus on family, emotions, clothes, between others. This topics are related to the way we speak for two reasons, as I'll explain ahead.

The firs motive (as I said above) is related to the lexis we use, because if you usually talk about a topic and are interest in it you are going to learn and acquire specific language about it; and, as a consequence, speak with it.

The second reason is that the words you use and know related to certain topics are going to shape the way you speak, how you express. Let me explain.

According to the topics I mention before, women tend to talk about emotion, so they know specific words about them and can easily express them. While men can't express easily how they fell, they don't have a good lexis, so there way of speaking is going to be disant of emotional aspects.

What I just said is my opinion, you are in all the right to say “That is not right, your whole idea of those topics is based on stereotypes”. Sadly I have to tell you that you are wrong, but you mention the point I wanted to get to, stereotypes. With that topic presented I want to ask the next question:

“Is the way we speak related to gender stereotypes?”

I'll give you sometime to think about it. Before answering that question I want to explain, “in a factual way”, why I said that you are wrong.

The reason why I said it is because at brain structure man and women have differences. Men have more neuronal connections in each hemisphere while women have them between hemisphere. That makes that men focus more in a rational way while women in an emotional one.

Now, focusing on the question (this answer, also, can explain why I said wrong), is true that stereotypes shape the way we speak, they influence us in a big way, as I'm going to explain.

For understanding how stereotype affect the way we speak, we have to see how they influence our actions, how they shape gender.

I believe that it's very complicated to explain how stereotypes are made and pass upon people with out getting to a vicious circle or to another topic, like Stereotypes and Mass Media (I wrote about this last week click HERE for more information), that's why I'm going to define two stereotypes about women and men, and with those I'm going to explain how those beliefs are shaped on us.

The stereotypes:

Men: They are tough and independent.

Women: They are weak and dependant.

I want to be clear, I don't believe in those ideas and (in my opinion) they are changing. With that said let's begin.

First I'll focus on the tough and weak aspect, this ones are the ones that shape the emotional topic for men and women (you'll have to remember what I wrote at the start of this post).

Those aspects and how they affect us are specially seen in the phrase “Crying is for girls”, this is usually said when a boy is crying, implying that since he is a male he has to be strong and to do that he doesn’t have to show his feelings because that is what girls do. Also, from what I've seen , there is some sort of disgust when you talk a little boy about a girl (and maybe vice versa) with this the phrase become more powerful and, in consequence, he doesn’t want to show his feelings and with that the way we talk and act is form by this stereotype.

Now I'll focus on the other aspect, independent and dependant (This stereotypes, in my opinion, are more “old fashion” than the first two). This aspects are related wit the roles that men and women do in relationships.

For one part, men are encourage to study and work. For the other part, women are inculcated in domestic things. This ideas are justified with the reason that women have to raise children while the man has to work, because of this type of relationship men are, more, independent while women aren't.

Even thought this is a old fashion idea you can still appreciate (in a way) this independent – dependant relationship. You can see it when in some cases the woman has a degree but she doesn’t work or the man wins more money (I wrote about inequality a year ago, you should look it to understand my point. Click HERE).

The stereotype mention above modify our way of speaking in relation of the topics that women and man should know, talk and words that each gender can use. For example, men can talk about politics and women can't or is not appropriate for women to say sewer words but for a man is acceptable.

In conclusion, in this post, I tried to explain that we are influenced in a big way, in all sense, by stereotypes (for example, the way we speak). That's way I want YOU to reflex for a minute, I want you to think how you can change the way you act and speak in order to be yourself and help others be themselves, to help eliminate those stereotypes.

Be free. Be yourself.

See you in the next post.

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